Phone the police! again and tell them how serious this is! Then tell his school to make sure they get a word in for him (if he carries on he may be expelled)
The Gunman Said,
get a bunch of lads and beat some respect into him
pepsi Said,
You got to the boys school tell the headteacher and his parents.
spam Said,
i would get all the other children to stick together and tell this boy that they wont play with him when he joins them.but they must stick together.he has to learn that his behaviour is not acceptable.you will only get yourself into trouble if you confront the boy yourself and i don’t think you want to do that judging by what his dad is seemingly involved in.see it as a way to bring him into society.its not his fault his parents are the way they are.
Ubersoldat_42 Said,
If the kid comes again , and is damaging your property i think you have enough right to kick him out of your garden and tell your son to stay away from him, and shout if you want to… shouting is gonna scare him off…
because he is young it doesnt mean he can do whatever he wants.. go tell this to the police and tell them your fed up with this kid!
he was damaging private property and noone is doing anything about it!
Make a stop to this!
imp.nothing_ian Said,
i know a system that works well beleive me. When he comes and does something bad to your son get out with a very angry looking face catch him by his ear and take him to the police and until you take him menace him with many punishments. It works pretty well. Anyway do not tell him about his father it would be a great shock for him.
Kohl Said,
First, ask your son how he feels, in your anger the last thing you want to do is pour all your attention into phoning the police and stopping the bully. Arrange some fun stuff to do at weekends with your children to take his mind off of it, because bullying is a horrible experience.
Phone the police again, speak to the headteacher and class teacher. Its really not acceptable behaviour.
Joe F Said,
You talk to his mother and stop being GUTLESS!
It is YOUR job to protect your kids and you are failing.Your husband should also be stepping in(or the kid’s dad wherever he is).
You could move to a better neighborhood.
I’ll tell you what I would have done.
The first time I would have talked to his mom.The 2nd time,(I would not have cared if it got me arrested)I would have taken a belt and wore his little **** out and sent him home crying and told him not to ever come back until he could learn to behave.
The parents would have gone ballistic but that’s when you explain to them if they had done their job, you wouldn’t have had to!
The kid would have respected you after that because they would have known what was coming next time.
I know from experience.
brad Said,
If your son has an older relative that’s also a minor, invite them over(even if it’s a girl). Then just sit back and see what happens when this kid tries to bully your son.
If he doesn’t have an older relative that can square away this bully.Tell your son that it is a natural emotion to feel fear/nervousness when faced with a physical confrontation. We all do. But unless he makes a stand, this kid could bully him for years. Ask him if he’s ready to put a stop to the nonsense. If the answer is yes. Then tell him the next time he sees this kid alone, walk straight up to this bully don’t say a word, and bust him in the nose. Tell him not to stop swinging until he has either whipped the boy, or the boy has whipped him. Tell your son not to use any weapons, as weapons only escalate an already bad situation into something far more dangerous. And tell your son that if this kid tries to use a weapon, then he is to run. (Then you can call the police and have the kid sent away.) Either way, after that initial fight this bully should realize that your son is capable of causing him pain if he gets out of line. If the bully is a glutton for punishment and doesn’t stop then, tell your son to fight the kid every single time this bully tries to pick on him. What is likely to happen after that first time though, is the bully will go for easier prey than your son.
I understand that that seems like a frightening answer to a mother. But at that age kids don’t know boundaries unless they are clearly drawn. You are caught in a situation that you are helpless because this bully is a minor, and unfortunately the task of setting that boundary is on your sons shoulders.
Or, you could move.
ejs Said,
I would continue to document what is going on and the times when you have contacted the police. You say that the other parents are ignoring the situation, perhaps you should try to appeal to these people again. You are all sharing in the same problem, if you band together and confront the parents and the authorities there is a better chance to correct the other situation. Perhaps the other parents are ignoring the situation out of fear. You say the kid’s Dad is mixed up in drug dealing, are they afraid of some kind of retaliation if they confront the parents?
Although it would be tempting to beat the living daylights out of the kid, you can’t it will only backfire on you and then he is the “victim” and you are the “bad guy”. This kid could be confronted as well. If he runs away after pullling some stunt, follow him, tell him that you know what is going on, and to stay away from your kid. You are the only advocate for your child, and this needs to be addressed because this could really escalate and your child or someone else’s could be seriously hurt by this kid that apparently has no boundaries.
alan h Said,
Do nothing. Do not shout at the other child or tell him about his father(That is joining in the childishness)
The police appear to be dealing with it.
Mrs. G Said,
yell at his mom and tell her that if her son doesn’t stop then you will start a neighbor hood petition to get them to move out. Also you should be teaching your son how to fight ( just in case ) and you shouldn’t tell him about his dad it’s not his fault his parents are like that
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Phone the police! again and tell them how serious this is! Then tell his school to make sure they get a word in for him (if he carries on he may be expelled)
get a bunch of lads and beat some respect into him
You got to the boys school tell the headteacher and his parents.
i would get all the other children to stick together and tell this boy that they wont play with him when he joins them.but they must stick together.he has to learn that his behaviour is not acceptable.you will only get yourself into trouble if you confront the boy yourself and i don’t think you want to do that judging by what his dad is seemingly involved in.see it as a way to bring him into society.its not his fault his parents are the way they are.
If the kid comes again , and is damaging your property i think you have enough right to kick him out of your garden and tell your son to stay away from him, and shout if you want to… shouting is gonna scare him off…
because he is young it doesnt mean he can do whatever he wants.. go tell this to the police and tell them your fed up with this kid!
he was damaging private property and noone is doing anything about it!
Make a stop to this!
i know a system that works well beleive me. When he comes and does something bad to your son get out with a very angry looking face catch him by his ear and take him to the police and until you take him menace him with many punishments. It works pretty well. Anyway do not tell him about his father it would be a great shock for him.
First, ask your son how he feels, in your anger the last thing you want to do is pour all your attention into phoning the police and stopping the bully. Arrange some fun stuff to do at weekends with your children to take his mind off of it, because bullying is a horrible experience.
Phone the police again, speak to the headteacher and class teacher. Its really not acceptable behaviour.
You talk to his mother and stop being GUTLESS!
It is YOUR job to protect your kids and you are failing.Your husband should also be stepping in(or the kid’s dad wherever he is).
You could move to a better neighborhood.
I’ll tell you what I would have done.
The first time I would have talked to his mom.The 2nd time,(I would not have cared if it got me arrested)I would have taken a belt and wore his little **** out and sent him home crying and told him not to ever come back until he could learn to behave.
The parents would have gone ballistic but that’s when you explain to them if they had done their job, you wouldn’t have had to!
The kid would have respected you after that because they would have known what was coming next time.
I know from experience.
If your son has an older relative that’s also a minor, invite them over(even if it’s a girl). Then just sit back and see what happens when this kid tries to bully your son.
If he doesn’t have an older relative that can square away this bully.Tell your son that it is a natural emotion to feel fear/nervousness when faced with a physical confrontation. We all do. But unless he makes a stand, this kid could bully him for years. Ask him if he’s ready to put a stop to the nonsense. If the answer is yes. Then tell him the next time he sees this kid alone, walk straight up to this bully don’t say a word, and bust him in the nose. Tell him not to stop swinging until he has either whipped the boy, or the boy has whipped him. Tell your son not to use any weapons, as weapons only escalate an already bad situation into something far more dangerous. And tell your son that if this kid tries to use a weapon, then he is to run. (Then you can call the police and have the kid sent away.) Either way, after that initial fight this bully should realize that your son is capable of causing him pain if he gets out of line. If the bully is a glutton for punishment and doesn’t stop then, tell your son to fight the kid every single time this bully tries to pick on him. What is likely to happen after that first time though, is the bully will go for easier prey than your son.
I understand that that seems like a frightening answer to a mother. But at that age kids don’t know boundaries unless they are clearly drawn. You are caught in a situation that you are helpless because this bully is a minor, and unfortunately the task of setting that boundary is on your sons shoulders.
Or, you could move.
I would continue to document what is going on and the times when you have contacted the police. You say that the other parents are ignoring the situation, perhaps you should try to appeal to these people again. You are all sharing in the same problem, if you band together and confront the parents and the authorities there is a better chance to correct the other situation. Perhaps the other parents are ignoring the situation out of fear. You say the kid’s Dad is mixed up in drug dealing, are they afraid of some kind of retaliation if they confront the parents?
Although it would be tempting to beat the living daylights out of the kid, you can’t it will only backfire on you and then he is the “victim” and you are the “bad guy”. This kid could be confronted as well. If he runs away after pullling some stunt, follow him, tell him that you know what is going on, and to stay away from your kid. You are the only advocate for your child, and this needs to be addressed because this could really escalate and your child or someone else’s could be seriously hurt by this kid that apparently has no boundaries.
Do nothing. Do not shout at the other child or tell him about his father(That is joining in the childishness)
The police appear to be dealing with it.
yell at his mom and tell her that if her son doesn’t stop then you will start a neighbor hood petition to get them to move out. Also you should be teaching your son how to fight ( just in case ) and you shouldn’t tell him about his dad it’s not his fault his parents are like that